Children of such households learned at an early age that even when they were not bleeding or bruised, they could ask for a kiss for any number of concerns. The kiss could accompany the sting of the removing an old bandage, a visit to the doctor (for another sting) and hurt feelings. It could be administered anywhere at anytime and a child’s anxiety would melt, returning them to joy and balance. It always worked, and like any charm, it was truly magic….a mysterious spontaneous healing.

Now, depending on your gender, personality and family, this belief in and practical use of kisses likely starts to disappear sometime around your ninth or tenth birthday. You were becoming a rational adult and learning to hide your tears and fears which were so childish. When kisses were offered, you refused with great distain. Yuck! Kisses were for babies. So you forgot about them until much later when you really did become an adult, parent, caregiver or teacher. A crying child comes running to you for help and you remember the wondrous blessings of a kiss. And, if you were lucky or brave, you might even, as an adult, get a magic kiss from another adult who wishes to comfort you.

This is a well known occurrence in most romantic relationships. There are misunderstandings, jealousies, angers and disappointments that can create a sense of separation between couples. The first time lovers have a fight, hash out their differences and agree to a truce, they may seal their renewed alliance with the same phrase, “Would you like a kiss to make it better?” Haven’t we all been told that when we have hurt another person, we must apologize and “kiss and makeup?” That kiss reunites us in love no matter what our relationship is called. It reminds us of the positive and effective healing power of love that we experienced in our childhood, a sharing in the deepest, most peaceful, most profound and energetic force that life has to offer, one that binds together.

All of us want to love and be loved. It is one of life’s necessities. All our emotions are physical manifestations of the life force with us, the presence that Einstein called “the divine mystery of life.” Quantum physics teaches that all life, animal, vegetable and mineral, is made up of and is connected to the same molecular and atomic structures. These forms may vary in performance, function or shape, but they are all running on the same energy with only an illusion of separation. Our individual physical life feeds our individual emotional life which affects the physical and emotional life of those around us and visa versa.

Energetic, vibrational and holistic medicine are founded on this same principal, that all life is one big, undifferentiated molecular stew. Acupuncture, Reiki, Shiatsu, Shamanism, Heart Math, Body Talk, Healing Touch, PSYCH-K, Polarity Therapy, Bach Flower Remedies and “the laying on of hands” are some of the various forms of energy medicine that can be classified in the same family as those magic childhood kisses. It is the intentional passing of healing and loving energy from one human to another and quantum physics is the science behind its efficacy. This is why these healing modalities work if we let them. So, next time you touch another person with kindly intent, remember this: your energy behind that intent affects them and has effects. You are participating in the ancient and timeless ritual of giving “a kiss to make it better.”

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